Some FAQ’s about me and T

September 9, 2011

I’ve gotten A BUNCH of specific questions about testosterone treatment, so I’m just gonna answer a few of the repeats:

1) Does T make you taller?- For me?  No.  Since my growth plates have fully matured and stopped growing then there is no way to reignite them to start again.  However, if you start testosterone before or at the very early stages of puberty when your growth plates are still developing, then yes, testosterone will affect your height (generally making you taller, but this isn’t the case for all people, some people are just made to be short).

2) How long does it take for the changes to occur?- Overall, it takes anywhere from 2-5 years to complete all of the changes and the timeline is different for every specific change. I can give you a general guideline for a few major ones that my endocrinologist gave me (this is on average when most people first begin noticing these changes):
-Voice deeping- 3 to 6 months is when the voice will begin to deepen noticeably, but it will continue to get lower for the 12 to 18 months of testosterone.
-Facial hair- 1 to 2 years is how long it will take to grow consistent facial hair, before that it will be patchy and scraggly and not something that I personally want on my face.
-Muscle development- 6 months to 1 year, this depends on how much you work out, though.
-Ending your period- 3 to 6 months, I wish this would happen faster…
-Growth of the clit- 1 to 3 months, this is one of the first and fastest changes to occur.
-Heightened libido- 1 to 3 months, this coincides with the larger clit.
-Hairier body (stomach, chest, back, legs, armpits…etc)- 6 months to 1 year.

3) So, do you, like, perform in those drag show things?- Let’s get something straight: being transgender is not the same thing as being a drag queen/king.  Granted, there are transgendered people who do perform (more power to them, drag shows are fun!) but not every trans person, not even MOST trans people perform in drag shows (and, in my experience, most drag performers aren’t trans at all, most of the performers I know are gay or straight.  That’s right, I said it, I know a lot of STRAIGHT drag performers).  No, I have never performed in a drag show, but its on my to-do list because it seems like a lot of fun NOT because I’m transgendered.

4) Once you transition will you be a straight boy?- Nope, I will be a queer transman.  Just like right now.  My hormone treatment doesn’t change who I’m attracted to and how I identify, it’s merely making some physical changes to help my outer appearance match my inner one.

5) Do you have to stay on testosterone for your whole life?- No, I don’t HAVE to…but I most likely will.  If I stop taking testosterone before my ovaries are removed then my period will come back and my feminine body characteristics (the fatty parts on female bodies, like the stomach pouch, butt, boobs (if pre-surgery), and hips) will come back.  Once my ovaries are removed my body will not be able to produce a “normal” amount of estrogen or testosterone without the shots which could propel me into a never-ending and relentless state of menopause (no thank you).

6) Are you ever going to actually do that video on binding that you keep talking about?- Yes, as soon as I get internet at my house (which will hopefully be within the next week)!  I want to be able to show you my binder but I feel like I shouldn’t be taking my shirt off for YouTube in the middle of this coffee shop…

7) How did you tell your parents?- Ah, good question, here’s my honest answer (and this isn’t word for word, I actually don’t remember my exact words, but I remember the feeling):  I was too scared to tell them both at the same time so I waited really late at night after my dad went to bed and then tried to open a conversation with my mom.  I said, mom, I’ve got something to tell you but its a little scary for me.  I’ve been researching taking some hormones to appear more like a guy.  She pondered it for a second.  We had a very brief discussion about the side effects, whether or not insurance covers it, when I was planning on doing it, if it was permanent, if I was sure this was the right decision for me.  She said, I’ll love you no matter what, but I don’t in any way agree with what you are doing.  Be choosy about when you tell your dad, because most likely that will be the last time you are ever allowed in the house.  And that was how the first convo ended, I didn’t get kicked out, I didn’t get yelled at, it actually went WAY better than I was expecting. What my mom said about my dad, though, that scared the shit out of me, so I didn’t talk to my dad about it for a while.  I’m not sure if we have ever had a discussion about it face-to-face, but I know he reads my blog, I know he knows whats going on by the way he acts when I visit home.  He’s not a talker (and when it comes to him, neither am I). The conversations between that one and the most recent one usually start out good and end bad.  It’s a struggle for my parents and I knew it would be so it wasn’t easy telling them.  I never had the chance to tell them I was a lesbian in high school, so this was really my first coming out to my parents.

8) What were you like as a kid? umm…

What were YOU like as a kid?

9) Can I use your blog as a reference?  Can I share this with my friends?  Will you come speak to so-so group of people about specific transgender issues?  Will you come talk to my students about trans bullying and equality?  Will you speak on a panel for medical students about your experiences?  Wanna get coffee?- YES YES YES.  I am doing this to educate others about my experience as a transperson and I am always willing to help out in any way that I can.  Please feel free to contact me if you’d like me to come speak/give a lecture/have story time/coffee.

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